Sharing Our Stories Is A Form of Healing

Telling stories is the primary - and primordial - way that we, as humans, connect with each other and pass on life lessons and wisdom. Though we may not sit around a hearth or a fire anymore (or even a television set), storytelling has never left our psyches or our lives.

When Catrina Houston reached out to ask me to be a guest on her podcast and to speak about my story - the one I told on stage, as well as the story behind the story, I didn’t know how many voices I’d be speaking for. She, like many others all over the world, had seen my Goalcast video and understood the deeply human, collective message that was embedded in the story - the need to break free from the life we are told we should want.

Several weeks have gone by since the video first aired, and has now been watched nearly 25 million times. The comments have been heated, but there are also many conversations taking place; conversations that we need to be having - about what is right for us as individuals with free will versus what is right by the standards of others - society, family, peers, religious or cultural belief systems, the media and any other external influence, real or imagined. As Catrina puts it, “This isn’t an episode about divorce, it’s an episode about finding your true self and believing in your own self worth.”

After this experience, which has been a shock to my system and rattled even more old memories and trauma, I’m more certain that our stories are a form of healing. Whether we write them for ourselves, publish them, speak them or simply share them with others in any format, we bring our humanity front and center.

We invite and permit ourselves and others to be themselves; to be human, vulnerable, open, caring, compassionate and, when we need it most, forgiving.

It’s in the forgiving that we honor our humanity. As I honor myself by sharing my story, I honor you by opening myself to yours.